7 Real, Powerful Ways to Practice Self love and care.

Friday, 27 May 2022

Do you know what self-love exactly is? Self-love is all about loving yourself. The simple meaning of self-love is to provide physical, emotional, and spiritual support to yourself. Self-love is not about fixing yourself. It's about falling in love with the parts of yourself you have been trying to fix.

Self-love is more important than finding a partner. The true partner is always with you from the beginning, which is yourself. If you want to establish self-love in your life, it can be a very long process but it will be worth it in the long run. Practicing self-love is a vital step in improving your mental health.

How to practice self love and self care

So, here are a few self-love tips that will help you in the long journey of loving yourself.

1. Embrace your mistakes and forgive yourself.


Are you the type of person who wants perfection in everything you do? Sometimes, when you are searching for perfection, you may be forgetting the fact that you are only human and you can't be absolutely perfect in anything you do. NOT AT ALL!

When you are seeking too much perfection, it can be harmful to your mental health. Instead of seeking perfection, accept things as they are and learn to forgive yourself if you make mistakes. Treat your mistakes as opportunities to grow in life. Accepting your mistakes and learning from them is a vital step in the journey of your self-love.

2. Listen to your instincts.


Are the goals that you set in your life for yourself really yours or did you just set them for the sake of society?

Follow your instincts of what you really want, what makes you happy. Be mindful of your goals. By being mindful of your goals, you can have a clear clarity of what you really want to do with your life.

"What is mindfulness and how can you practice mindfulness?"

Mindfulness is the ability to be present in the moment, to be aware of what is happening around you, and let go of the judgments and unnecessary ideas of other people. You can practice mindfulness by meditating, and journaling or you can take out some time to self-reflect on your thoughts and desires.

3. Stop worrying about what others think of you.


Do you get affected by others' opinions about you? If you do get affected by others' opinions, remember that no matter what you do, or how you behave, people will have an opinion of you. But, if you let those opinions get to you, you are only allowing them to control you or hurt you.

If you start to stop caring about what others think of you, believe me, you will be a lot happier than ever.

Now, you must be thinking about that "How can you stop caring about other people's opinions?"

Here are some ways that may help you:

a) Not everyone cares.


If you think that people care about you what you do. So, let me tell you, they don't. They don't even think about you. But, if they really think about you, they are going to get forgotten by the end of the day.  So, do what you want to do, people don't even care.

b) Accept your flaws.


When you are more concerned about other people's opinions or perceptions of you, it becomes damaging to your self-confidence and self-esteem. 

There can be a possibility that some negative perceptions have been ingrained in your life, into your subconscious mind, since childhood. Coping these thoughts can be really difficult.

There is only one way to overcome these negative thoughts by accepting yourself. Self-acceptance is the journey to embrace all flaws without thinking about someone's opinion.

c) Accept the fact that not everyone will like you.


It is a universal fact that in life some people will like you and some people don't and it is completely okay. Everyone has some unique quality. There will be people who will accept all of you, people who will supportive and kind. Find these kinds of people for your growth in life.

4. Treat your body with love and happiness.


If you want to take a step toward loving yourself, start with loving your body first. Fall in love with the way you look, your body looks. You are unique and you should love yourself. Loving your body is a powerful step in the journey of your self-love.

There are some ways that you can try so that you can love your body more:

a) Listen to your body.


By listening to your body, I mean, listen to your body's needs. Eat when you need it and rest when you are tired.

b) Try positive affirmations.


Positive affirmations are a great way to change the way of your thinking. Repeat affirmations to yourself and you will feel positive all day.

c) Do exercise for a healthy body.


Do exercise for yourself, for your healthy body. You can also try some fun activities like dancing or you can go out for walking. You can do anything as long as you are moving your body.

5. Trust yourself that you are capable of making good decisions.


When we make decisions for ourselves, we often doubt ourselves and our ability and start to think if this is actually the right decision to make or not. In the journey of self-love, trusting yourself is a must.

You do not need to seek validation for your decision because you know what you want and what's right for you. Looking for validation is proof that you don't trust yourself for making good decisions for yourself.

If you know what's right for you and you believe in yourself, you don't have to look for validation and acceptance. So, trust your decisions, you will only make good decisions for yourself.

6. Put yourself first, practice self-care.


Taking care of your needs is a basic act of love. Even, if you are taking a few minutes to check-in for yourself and provide yourself with what you need. It is self-care. Practicing self-care is very helpful for your mental and physical well-being.

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If you are beginning your journey of self-care, there are 12 steps that may help you to begin this beautiful journey of yours.

a) If it feels wrong, don't do it: You can never be happy if you do something that doesn't make you feel good. Don't do those things that don't come with your values or you feel pressurize about. It is the first step in starting your self-care journey.

b) Say exactly want you mean: Don't tell lies to other people in order to please them. Say those things that you actually mean.

c) Don't be a people pleaser: Yes, this is somewhat related to the previous point I made. Don't be a people pleaser in order to make relationships with them. Act like the way you are. Don't fake anything about yourself.

d) Trust your instincts: Have a faith in yourself and your decisions. It is an important step of self-care. If you don't trust yourself, no other person can trust you. So, make the first move and trust yourself.

e) Never speak badly about yourself: Cut out your negative thoughts about yourself. You only attract negativity in your life when you think negative. Nowadays, self-depreciation is the most common thing that people do and it's not worth it.

f) Never give up on your dreams: No matter what happens, you should never give up on your dreams. You should always try for what you want in life. Trying is the best thing you can do.

12 steps to self love and self care



g) Don't be afraid to say no: If you don't want to do something, simply say no. If it doesn't feel right to you, you don't have to do it.

h) Don't be afraid to say yes: Sometimes, people don't do something that they really want to do because they think what other people would think of them. If you really want to do something, don't be afraid to say yes.

i) Be kind to yourself: Self-care is all about kindness. Don't push yourself so hard. Be kind to yourself and take things slow.

j) Let go of what you can't control: There can be some things in our lives that we can't control of. So, letting go is the best option you have for your own well-being.

k) Stay away from drama and negativity: There is a famous quote, "Negative people need drama like oxygen. Stay positive, it will take their breath away."

Staying away from the unnecessary drama that doesn't excite you is very good for your mental health. Beautiful things happen in your life when you distance yourself from all the negativity and drama.

l) LOVE: Lastly, love yourself and love other people around you and appreciate them for their good work.

7. Practice positive affirmations.


Affirmations help to create new thought patterns in your mind. through repeated listening and reciting. If you create new positive thought patterns and break any negative patterns you may have, you will only attract positivity in your life. Affirmations target your subconscious mind and make your affirmation a reality.

You can take some ideas from these self-love affirmations:

  • I accept myself as I am.
  • I respect myself.
  • I love and embrace all of myself.
  • I am radiant.
  • I am beautiful.
  • I am confident in myself and my worth.
  • I believe in myself. I trust myself.
  • I shine brightest when I am my true self.
  • I love my body.
  • I am grateful for my body, and all it does to support me.
  • All of me is worthy.
  • I am worthy.
  • I have enough, I do enough, I am enough.
  • I am good enough.
  • I am powerful.
  • I am powerful when I respect myself.
  • I am powerful when I love myself.
  • I am strong, I am brave.
  • I respect my energy and protect it with love.
  • I prioritize myself and my well-being.
  • Setting boundaries is an act of self-love.
  • I am smart, I am creative, and I am capable.

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